Trey Songz says I don't have to pay for his attention.
Travie McCoy says I look like the type to keep his mind off the last one.
Jason DeRulo says I can be his "it" girl....because I'm the sh*t.
So these songs are super romantic and sweet, right? If William Shakespeare was writing in 2012, I'm 99% sure Romeo would take his lines from one of the above songs to woo Juliet in the famous balcony scene.
Even though these men aren't respecting females in any way, the lack of disgust from our culture is evidence that we approve. We, as women, accept being talking to in this way. Our cultural posture speaks louder than words. And we are slouching. Females want to be confident, and think our sexuality is the easiest way to get there.
Women are told that being sensual is the only way to feel good about ourselves. When you are sexy, you are the Queen of your own kingdom. I know, ladies. That feeling when you walk into a room and eyes linger. Conversations pause. When a man see you. The temptation to bask in that glory is vast in our hearts.
Should we stop the pursuit of sexy? What are our alternatives? I've done a lot of observation of what kind of girl gets a man. Some of my friends married boys. Others married men. And I would say the majority of the girls who married men, found their confidence outside of sex appeal. Four words come to my mind as I envision the kind of woman who is truly the Feminine Mystique:
Virtuous.
Chaste.
Moral.
Modest.
Words your great-grandmother would use. Soooo not what Trey Songz is looking for unfortunately. Sooo not what Betty Friedan is promoting either.
There is freedom in chastity.
It's true, I usually don't attract boys. They run as soon as they realize I'm not interested in going home with them. Being traditional and old-fashioned is not sexy.
But being sexy isn't all it's cracked up to be.
Inspiration came from this article somewhat:
